Essay on the Lesson I Learned the Hard Way

We are human beings, and we are likely to make mistakes, and what comes out of these mistakes, is that we learn lessons. It is always in our nature as human beings to make mistakes. Making mistakes in life and correcting those makes us better people. A good illustration is when I was writing this paper; I had to write a lot of drafts to come up with the best paper.

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It was on February 10, 2017, when I was on my daily twenty-minute walk with my dog. On the process of walking, I felt this strong feeling burning inside me like a hot coal. It was the feeling of unhappiness within me. Then flashbacks of how my life has been started to appear, I remembered how I have always let things flow, without caring to ask why certain things happen or why people do them. For many years I never took a firm stand on my decisions, and I allowed other people to decide for me.

In my life, I have been presented with a lot of amazing opportunities, but because of fear and lack of confidence, I have always been afraid to take up those opportunities. My fear of failing had overwhelmed me completely, to the point where I could not do anything because I feared to fail. When I was in high school, I had a very good voice and amazing dancing skills. In fact, I would sing to all popular pop songs one by word. One day, my mother heard me singing, and she came to me and held my hand and said: My daughter you have a voice of an angel, there are some auditions coming up I think you should attend them. At first, I was really happy that my mother I appreciated my voice, but then after a while, I felt a strong feeling of fear. And a lot of questions started running in my mind, what would my friends think about me? Do I have a talent? Do I have the confidence to start in front of the judges? After giving a lot of thoughts to my mothers suggestion I decided not to attend the auditions, Of course, she was disappointed with me, but I had made my decision. The auditions were made, and one of my schoolmates and also my best friend got a scholarship just for participating. That is when I realized how the fear had cost me. Apart from that scenario, there are some instances where fear had affected my personality and attitude completely.

From my childhood years, I have always been a very girly girl. My taste for fashion and cosmetics has often been unimaginable. In fact, by the age of eight instead of requesting Santa, the goodies most children requested I would request styling products, hot tools, and manikin heads. And sometimes I would experiment how to perfect a curl by burning hair. Surprisingly, I still remember vividly how unpleasant the smell of the burning hair is. So, my parents saw the passion I had and they decided to enroll me to one of the best cosmetology schools in Atlanta, Georgia. I will admit, I still had some fear in me. But being in a setting where there were good people and most importantly doing what I like most it was a downhill task for me. After completion of my course, I landed several jobs in major cosmetics department stores and recently being in Nordstrom. However, even after landing a job in the field which I was passionate about, I still had a fear of failing. I lacked self-confidence in myself and my expertise. And I always took the backseat in my career, and whenever job-related opportunities came up, I evaded them since I didnt want to mess up. I was just contented with my place in the organization, though my salary was not that much, I preferred a small amount of salary than being fired because of doing something right I lacked self-confidence in myself and my expertise. As time passed by, I wasted many opportunities, and my colleagues were getting promoted and making a lot of money while I remained in the same place and making the same amount of money. In this process, I realized the lack of confidence throughout my life had done more harm than good. I have often kept quiet about my fears, and I never shared them with anyone even my closest friends. Now the negative effects of not being vocal about my problems were haunting me.

After having a series of failures in my life due to fear of failing, I now understand that you do not have to be perfect to do something well. All you have to do is to try and be confident in your work. Never allow fear to control you but on contrary control the fear. Nobody is perfect, we learn in the process of life. So, therefore, the ultimate decision everyone should make is to ensure their level of confidence is always higher than their fear. I am disappointed I had to learn the hard way